gush.

This was going to be a regular Instagram or Facebook post, but the more I thought about it the more I was like "Nah, fuck that." This needs to be a full on blog post because I have too many thoughts about it. 

The main topic is: how can a person, male or female, in a committed relationship, take the time to gush, or fawn over a celebrity that they think is attractive, yet not put that same level of energy into gushing or fawning over the person they are in the relationship with?

I’m sure most people express how attractive they think some famous person is. People are attracted to who they’re attracted to. Heck, I’ve done the same thing. I have never made any bones about how I feel about Jill Scott, Adele and Nia Long (among others). I have made my attraction to these celebrities known to my significant other. However, I also have no problem letting my significant other know that these celebrities do not hold a candle to her. And it’s true:

I look at that as playful couple banter. Both ways. She can talk about how fine Method Man and Idris Elba are, and I can discuss the "assets" of Adele and Ms. Scott. No harm no foul (To an extent. When it gets to the point of “I would let Idris get this every day, every hour” or “I’d have Megan the Stallion bent over my (insert piece of furniture here) all night,” it’s a bit much).

The issue comes in when the parties in the relationship don’t think it’s necessary to declare this passion and desire to each other. 

 

“You’re cute.”

“Hey handsome.”

 

Nice things to say, I suppose. But you didn’t say Meg is cute. You didn’t say Method Man was handsome. No, your significant other wants to know what you want to bend her over, or what he can get all day every day. 

 

This is important stuff, folks. These small adjustments can make all the difference in the world. Let her know that her body is your favorite distraction. Make sure he knows that the sound of his voice sends a ripple through you that makes your knees buckle. 

 

Trust me.

 

But then again, what do I know? I’m just a guy and a gentleman.